Love & Relationships

Love is NOT an emotion, I have defined it as Committed Benevolent Interest. There is, however, an emotion at the center of it…the emotion of Interest. Our meaning-making is our own doing.  Our meaningful worlds have our signature, and ours alone, on them.  They are built by us, brick by brick, often haphazardly and tentatively, as we make things mean something and then make the relationships between the meanings mean something, and so on.   It is our process of encountering our own world and our own experience and our own ‘need’ to know and understand.  As we create in each moment ‘this means that’ we are already in the throes of all the emotioning force(s) that  are ‘triggered.’ in doing so.  

If I see and know and say “there is my enemy” then I will light that set of emotioning circuits up.  The circuit has been opened, big time..  Emotioning is the force associated with intention creation and ‘enforcement’ (behavioral follow thought) which is us making ourselves Will into existence that which directs our Will further to physical world action or metaphysical action that would/could complete the circuit.  We are built to seek completion while also being strongly inclined to avoid pain, so our healing needs are at odds with our defending and our coping. Then we do the interpersonal dance and all of this comes up. Improving self-love and love of others starts with redefining our understanding of what the experience of it even is.